Yikes Questions: "But Who Will You Leave Your Stuff To?"

This is one of the weirdest questions I have been asked when people find out I am childfree, and my partner and/or I have been asked multiple times: "But who will you leave your stuff to?"

I will never understand what prompts anyone to ask this question, nor even why anyone would care. It's so invasive and strange!

But here we are. And of course it's just one of many strange and invasive questions people like to ask childfree people. For some reason, saying you are childfree is interpreted as a license to open up your entire life, from your childhood experiences to your sex life to your end-of-life planning, to anyone and everyone.

As always, "It's none of your business" is always a perfect response to any Yikes Question related to your decision to be childfree.

When I'm feeling uncharitable, I simply reply to this question with: "I'll be dead, so I really don't care."

In less grumpy moments, I've always found the following to be a satisfactory answer, both for myself and the questioner: "If I'm fortunate enough to end my life with anything left to leave anyone" — I do live in the United States where dying tends to bankrupt people, after all — "I will happily be leaving it to charities that mean something to me."

But in light of recent events, I have decided to be a little more specific: "I will happily be leaving whatever I have to give to Planned Parenthood."

It has been thus in my will for many years, and I see no reason not to say so — and every reason to say so, to anyone who asks.

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